i just recently had a miscarriage at 5 wks…. this was my 1st pregnancy and it wasn’t expected however, i’m still hurt.. i was so excited. I’ve missed a wk from work and i’m so depressed, i can’t concerntrate and i jusr keep crying. How can i handle this? Any advice on how to handle my pain? I really want to try again…. but don’t know if i should… my doc says it’s ok after i get another cycle but my mom and friends say i need to give my body time to heal… Should i? Also i was told that i could get pregnant alot faster now that i had this miscarriage and that i showld wait alteast 6 wks before sex just as if i had a baby… I don’t think that is true… What do u think can i get pregnant again so fast right after a miscarriage?
i had a miscarriage a year ago and the doctor told me i was 4-5 weeks pregnant. (my second pregnancy cause i have a 4 year old)
i had my period that month (may 2005) and it was normal but then i started to bleed 4 days later. i didn’t know what was wrong with me but my mom and husband both had me believing i was having another period. But i knew that couldn’t be cause that has never happened to me.
well after 6 days of this (hurting,bleeding,tiredness) i went to the ER and they told me i was pregnant. I was so shocked cause we weren’t trying but i wanted the baby.
they thought i was having a tubal pregnancy (i wasn’t) and they done an ultrasound on me and there was no baby in my uterus.
They kept me in the hospital overnight and do you know where they put me?
On the maternity floor for me to hear other people’s babies crying when i just lost mine.
That was so awful..I had to be sedated. The next day when the doctor came in he told me how far along i had been and if i were going to try again to wait 2 months.
The day i got out i was not hurting or nothing like that so if i hadn’t of gone to the Er i would have never known i was pregnant.
I did name the baby even though i will never know if it was a girl or a boy. I named my baby ":Jessie":
It hurts so bad in the beginning after it happens but as time passes on it will get better i promise you.
You will never forget about it but it won’t hurt as bad for you after a while.
This happened to me a year ago and yes i do think of the baby everyday but it does not hurt as bad as when i lost it.
It does kill me knowing that i could have a 4 month old baby right now.
It is not your fault you miscarried you didn’t do anything to cause it to happen as neither did i (with my miscarriage)
All you can do is pray and start living life again. You can get pregnant again but maybe you should wait for a few months. I though have not tried at all. Everything happens for a reason. Don’t be so hard on yourself cause you didn’t make yourself lose your baby.
I wish you all the best and i hope you have a baby soon (i know when you do have a baby it will not replace the one you lost)
Ovulation can occur 14 days after a miscarriage with the next period 28 days after the miscarriage, but there is great personal variation. It may take a few cycles before your regular pattern is re-established. This means that you can become pregnant 14 days after a miscarriage if you resume a normal cycle immediately, but there is a great personal variation. It can take up to 6 or 7 weeks for your next period to come if you had ":natural": miscarriage (i.e. no D&:C or tablets).
Getting pregnant after miscarriage
After losing a baby many couples worry about the prospects for another pregnancy. Dr Howard Lee suggests strategies for coping with miscarriage and trying again
A miscarriage can be devastating. There’s a feeling that somehow what happened was your fault, that something you did may have triggered the loss – exercise, a minor fall, sexual intercourse. This is rarely the case. Some women also worry that a previous abortion has affected them and may have caused their miscarriage, but there’s no evidence to back this up either.
Research suggests that 50% of pregnancies miscarry before they implant in the womb and even when pregnancy has been confirmed – 35-50 days after conception – about 25% will end in miscarriage.
Sometimes a D&:C (dilatation and curettage) has to be carried out after a miscarriage to make sure that the womb is completely clear. This procedure, also known as a ‘scrape’, involves a general anaesthetic and a short stay in hospital. It won’t weaken your cervix or make you more likely to miscarry in subsequent pregnancies.
Your doctor and midwife should be sympathetic and understanding, but there aren’t any tests that can help to determine what caused the miscarriage. Focus on the fact that serious medical problems are rarely to blame and it’s very likely that your next pregnancy will be successful. Should you have a second miscarriage – and many women do miscarry more than once in their lives – you may be referred to a specialist. However, even sophisticated tests may not produce any reasons for successive miscarriages.
Coping with the grief
You never forget the experience of losing a baby. As well as the grief, your body will undergo some profound hormonal adjustments, which may make you feel emotionally vulnerable and volatile.
Although it’s difficult, it may help to tell family or close friends how you feel. If you’d like to talk to other couples who have been through a miscarriage, you can log on to our message board or get in touch with local support groups in your area by contacting the Miscarriage Association
C/o Clayton Hospital, Northgate, Wakefield, W Yorkshire WF1 3JS Tel: 01924 200 795 (administration) Helpline: 01924 200 799 (Mon-Fri 9-4pm, then answer phone) Fax: 01924 298 834
Each woman will have her own way of handling the situation, but the days and weeks following a miscarriage can be extremely difficult. A sense of shock, grief, depression, fatigue or failure may set in. Some couples feel isolated and withdraw, others want to talk about their loss. But remember that not everyone is going to understand your emotions. To outsiders – it may just be ‘another miscarriage’.
Is it important to wait before trying for another baby?
Some couples decide that they want to begin trying for another pregnancy right away: others feel that they need time to get over their loss. It’s up to you.
Many health professionals suggest that you should wait between three and six months after a miscarriage before trying to get pregnant again – most recommend that you have at least one normal period. Research suggests that the risk of miscarriage in the next pregnancy is about one and a half times higher if you don’t allow yourself one normal cycle before you try again.
However, don’t worry if you find yourself pregnant again before you have a period.
The risk of further miscarriages
Having a miscarriage does not necessarily mean that you have a fertility problem. Most women go on to have healthy pregnancies later. Even after repeated miscarriages (three or more in a row) you still have a 70-80% chance of carrying another pregnancy to term.
Unfortunately, if you had a miscarriage that was associated with an ectopic pregnancy, there is a 20% risk that a further pregnancy could become ectopic and this may affect your fertility.
How to prepare for pregnancy after a miscarriage
Take regular exercise
Eat a healthy diet
Try to keep your weight within reasonable limits
Lower your alcohol intake
Reduce your intake of high-caffeine drinks, such as coffee
Take folic acid to help the development of your baby’s nervous system
Avoid any unnecessary medication
Rest as much as possible during the first few weeks of pregnancy
Easier said than done – but try not to get over anxious
Stress is known to release certain chemicals in the brain that can interfere with the production of your normal pregnancy hormones. If you’re worried, talking to others who have had similar problems does help, so log on to our message board and share your feelings.
Above all, try to remember that most couples that have a miscarriage go on to have a healthy baby.
maybe you need to see a doctor if you are depressed. hope you feel better soon and god bless
I agree with your mom and your friends. Let both your body and your mind heal before trying again. As for the pain, see a therapist for a little while if you can, it might help. I wish you well, and I’m sorry for your loss. Hang in there. 🙂
Yes. Your hormones are still elevated, it takes a while for them to return to normal. But while they’re elevated, your body is going to accept a new pregnancy very quickly and easily.
Look it’s really really difficult.
TIME is required…
understanding you did NOTHING to cause this helps too.
Hopefully the baby’s father is comforting you… Don’t go through this alone.
And NO… one miscarriage doesn’t necessarily predict another.
Meditate to find peace with your self, I mean this in terms of praying to God.
How do you know the kid wouldn’t have grown up to be Jeffrey Dommer?
God can help. Seek him and pray and you will find peace.